Zaljubljenost = samouničevanje

• Main Author: Vrhovec, Neža
• Other Authors: Šterk, Karmen
• Format: Bachelor Thesis
• Language: Slovenian
• Published: 2018
• Subjects: zaljubljenost; idealiziranje; projekcija; razočaranje; samouničevanje; infatuation; idealising; projection; disappointment; self-destruction; sami
• Online Access: https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/IzpisGradiva.php?id=104040; https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/Dokument.php?id=114555&dn=; https://plus.si.cobiss.net/opac7/bib/35919965?lang=sl

Prvi pogoj za pravilno razumevanje tega diplomskega dela je razlikovanje med zaljubljenostjo in ljubeznijo, nato pa še poznavanje pojma zaljubljenosti. Ideja je, da je to družbeni konstrukt zahodne kulture, po katerem »vsi« hrepenimo. Ker gre pri zaljubljenosti za idealiziranje in projiciranje svojih idealnih predstav o partnerju/partnerki na objekt zaljubljanja, menimo, da je na delu samouničevanje. Sami sebe namreč prepričamo v obstoj pravljice, ki ni niti blizu realnosti, kar privede do globokega razočaranja, ko ugotovimo, da je šlo za naše lastne fikcije. To privede do trpljenja, mi pa smo povzročitelji njegovega vzroka. Podrobneje se bomo ukvarjali z zaljubljenostjo na splošno, njenim izvorom, na podlagi česa se zaljubimo, kako dolgo traja, do česa privede, zakaj se zaljubljamo in kako se ta proces lahko prepreči. The first condition for a proper understanding of this thesis is the distinction between infatuation and love, followed by knowledge about the concept of infatuation. The idea is that this is a social phenomenon of Western culture “everybody” is longing for. Since infatuation is about idealisation and projection of own ideal concepts of a partner to the object of infatuation, we think that this is a process of self-destruction. We convince ourselves about the existence of a fairy-tale, which is not even close to reality. When we find out that it was all our fiction, this leads to deep disappointment,. This leads to suffering with us as the source of its cause. We will thoroughly discuss infatuation in general, its origin, what makes us fall in love, how long it lasts, where does it lead, why we are falling in love and how this process can be prevented.