| Summary: | The Concordian \feet\/\e March 25, 2007 5 The truth about first impressions • Why clothing can make or break a first \mpreee\or\ By SARAH HOFFBECK Lifestyle Writer Did you know that within the first 30 seconds of meeting a person, you will make judgments based on what you see, hear and sense? In fact, most experts agree that it only takes between 90 seconds and four minutes to decide if we like someone. Crazy, but true. Just think back to the last time you first met someone. Your first imptession of that person was probably made and decided within only five minutes. Unfortunately, people also judge you by what you wear. Just as you judge other people, people will judge you. And believe it or not, your appearance will set the tone for your first impression. Your wardrobe not only reflects your personality, but it will also influence other peoples' perceptions of you. In other words, dress how you want to be perceived as this will play a huge role in how you will be treated. In general, an unkempt appearance portrays a disorganized and untrustworthy person, whereas a well-groomed appearance portrays an efficient and reliable person. Needless to say, in the world of work first impressions are crucial. Not only can you tell a lot about a person by the way he or she dresses, but according to research done by Yahoo! Hotjobs, 75 percent of recruiters believe that how you dress for work will affect your job, salary and chances for promotion. In any event, whether you're going to a job interview, your first day at work, a sales meeting or presenting, it is important to make a good first impression. Although dressing properly alone won't necessarily land you a job, it will give you a competitive edge and a positive first impression. We've all heard it before, right? Dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Surprisingly, a Yahoo! Hotjobs poll found that 72 percent of recruiters reported that it is important that employees dress like their bosses. In a world where individuality matters, your clothes need to make a positive impact while at the same time represent who you are. So dress for success. No matter what the norm may be—business-attire, semi-business, or casual—dressing for success means always keeping a neat image. This means wearing current, clean and ironed clothing. Still a bit fuzzy on what is appropriate to wear to work and what isn't? Avoid the following looks and you should be set to go. • Too Casual: Shorts, t-shirts, hats, sneakers, worn jeans, etc. • Too Sexy: Miniskirts, spaghetti-straps, strappy stiletto sandals, anything sheer or see-through, etc. • Too Sloppy: Baggy-fitting or wrinkled clothing, excessive layers, etc. Remember, you never know who you might see when you're running around campus, the grocery store or the bank. So avoid potential embarrassment and be sure to represent yourself as you truly want to be seen. A mother'y wUdowv: By BRITTNEY CHRISTY Lifestyle Writer Some people think of relationships as two people coming together to create a whole. This thinking requires the assumption that the two people before they were in the relationship were two halves. My mother has always had a problem with this thinking. It is not the metaphor itself that she finds problematic. It's the fact that many people search for a partner to fill their emotional void. When this is the case, cute phrases such as "you complete me" can Doint to a more detrimental problem. My mother taught me that a person has to be completely happy with themselves, and most importantly love themselves, before they can enter into a relationship and try to love another person. Often people who are unhappy within themselves will seek out partners that make them feel good and that make them happy. But having a boyfriend or girlfriend will not make you love yourself, and the underlying issue will always resurface. Relationships are not Band- Aids. To have a successful, happy relationship, each person needs to be happy even when they are completely independent of the other. People who try to rely on their partners as their sole source of happiness find themselves in all sorts of relationship problems. For instance, if one partner perceives the other as their only source of happiness, then they may cling to their partner out of fear of losing them. 1 think that clinging behavior speaks for itself; rarely does a healthy relationship consist of such desperate clutching. Worse, relationships where one partner is not fully happy can lead to abuse. A boyfriend or girlfriend with low self-esteem is a prime victim for verbal, emotional or physical abuse. In order to have happy, healthy relationships, each "half needs to be a whole person. It is one thing for partners to support each other in their endeavors and in times of need, but it is entirely another when one or both partners rely on the other as their source of happiness. It is unhealthy to expect another person to make you happy. Being college students, many of us are still finding ourselves. It must be said that there is absolutely nothing wrong with finding out who you are before attempting to date or engage in a relationship. Having a good relationship with your self will help you have a more fulfilling relationship with another person. Dani's Nailbox Dear Dani, My gramer and spelling is horribull but pleas don't correct me. 1 want all yur readers to see how bad I right. I don't try to right bad but 1 can't help it. My problem. Nobody gets me. They all think I'm stoopid becuz I can't write good. Even tho 1 suck at English, I am real good at other things. 1 can do calculus in my sleep and I'm real good at fixing things, why don't nobody talk to me like an adult? They jus look at me like I was a dog or somthin. I taken and fayeld righting once and I don't wants to fayl again. What can I do to get good at righting like you and get peepull to ask me there problems and treet me like a smart person? Fayling at Life Dear Fayling, Unfortunately, there is no magic pill you can take to resolve a grammar deficiency. It is something that you will have to work through for the rest of your life. Being able to write well is a skill that you will need in the working world. Even in a math-related profession, you may need to occasionally write a memo or at the very least, instructions. Here at Concordia, you have many resources available to you. If you live in the dormitories, visit your Resident Academic Assistant (RAA). RAAs keep office hours during which you can make an appointment for tutoring. You could also schedule an appointment with the Reading-Writing Center, where many o( the tutors are English majors. A third option is the Counseling Center. A counselor can talk with you and help you make a plan for improvement. You are not alone! Also remember that, although it doesn't catch everything, the spelling and grammar check tool on your word processor should become your good friend! When you improve your spelling and grammar, the respect that you want from other people should come much more easily. Until then, you may just have to stick up for yourself and demand that you be talked to like an adult. Before you know it, you may have letters like these piling up in your PO Box! Need advice? Send your letters to Dani's Mailbox, CPO 3902, Concordia College, Moorhead, MN, 56562 or e-mail d3nismailbox@KvTirerne.com. This week in history. By SARAH WASSBERG Lifestyle Writer Concordia: March 19, 1937: Debaters from Otago University in New Zealand debate a pair of Cobbers on this day with invitations extended to high school debate teams in the region, March 20, 1967: Student Senate soundly defeats a faculty-course evaluation booklet proposal. The Senate agreed that the small size of Concordia would make the publication of a booklet criticizing faculty or courses more injurious than beneficial. At the same meeting, the senate approved the creation of a fine arts commission. March 21, 1953:T\\t Advanced Roller Club is scheduled from 2 to 4 p.m. at the roller rink in the gymnasium. March 22, 1956: A Norwegian Declamation Contest is held in the Chapel on this day. Students compete via literary oratory for a silver medal. The declamation contest will be followed by music and singing by students from the Norse classes. Admission is free and open to the public. March 23, 1921 .-The Concordian runs a front-page article about changes to the library. Formerly a pair of reading rooms, the old library was given over completely to reference and periodicals because of the need for more space. Non-reference studying, and the noisy socializing that usually accompanied it, is relegated to the auditorium. March 24, 1927: World-famous Norwegian Arctic explorer Roald Amundsen gives a Concordia-sponsored lecture entitled "By Airship from Rome to Teller" at the Fargo Auditorium. Amundsen is famous for being the first person to make the voyage around the American coast by way of the Northwest Passage (during which he corrected the location of the magnetic North Pole) in 1905 and also for being the first person to reach the South Pole in 1911. Amundsen's lecture is about the Amundsen-Ellsworth Expedition, which made the first successful airship crossing from Europe America over the North Pole. He made the trip via the dirigible "Norge" and will present still pictures and motion picture footage of the trip from Rome to Teller, Alaska, including footage of the Pole itself. March 25, 1974: President Knutson defends intervisitation in chapel and answers protests from students that their views were not being heard by Student Association. He reiterates that Concordia is a Christian institution and should uphold moral and religious values. He ends by saying that the Health Center will never pass out birth control pills because that would by condoning sexual promiscuity. World: March 19, 1918:T\\t U.S. Congress enacts the Standard Time Act, which established our modern time zones. It also established Daylight Savings Time from the last Sunday in March to the last Sunday in October. The wartime move was unpopular with farmers and was repealed the following year. Woodrow Wilson vetoed the repeal twice, but his second veto was overridden. March 20, 1852: Harriet Beecher Stowe's Uncle Tom's Cabin is published. The novel has been credited with fueling the abolitionist movement of the 1850s (and in some instances has been directly linked to the Civil War), but in recent years it has been criticized for establishing negative stereotypes of African Americans. March 21, 1952: D.J. Alan Freed organizes the Moondog Coronation Ball, which is generally accepted as the first major rock and roll concert. The concert was held in Cleveland, OH and though only 7,000 legitimate tickets were printed, over 200,000 people showed up, most with counterfeit tickets and far exceeding the capacity of the arena. The first act, Paul "Hucklebuck" Williams played one song before the jam-packed arena was shut down by the fire marshals due to destruction o( property. None of the other acts even got a chance to play. So the first rock and roll concert ever must also be the most famous one-song concert in history. March 22, 1765: British Parliament unanimously passes the Stamp Act of 1765, which levies a stamp tax on the British colonies in America. It was enacted to defray the costs of fighting the French & Indian War (a.k.a. Seven Years War) but was never really enforced as it met with stiff resistance from the colonists. March 23, 1839: First recorded usage of the word "OK" in the Boston Morning Post. It was originally an abbreviation for the mangled "oil korrect" meaning "all correct." March 24. 1973: Pink Floyd's album, "The Dark Side of the Moon" is released. The album explores the new genre of electronic music and is considered the band's greatest work. It spent 741 weeks on the Billboard 200 Chart, the longest of any album in history. March 25, 1911:The infamous Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire kills 146 garment workers because the exit doors were locked to keep workers from leaving during work. The disaster led to improved conditions for manufacturing workers. Rent DOUBLED! 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