Po verskem prepričanju različni, a enaki v trpljenju in bolečini, ljubezni in sreči

• Main Author: Kristovič, Jasmina
• Format: Article in Journal/Newspaper
• Language: Slovenian
• Published: Inštitut za ekumensko teologijo in medreligijski dialog pri Teološki fakulteti Univerze v Ljubljani 2019
• Subjects: mešani pari; mešani zakoni; partnerski odnosi; relacijska družinska terapija; mixed pairs; mixed marriages; partnership relations; relational family therapy; info:eu-repo/classification/udc/159.922; Gleda; Radost’; sami
• Online Access: https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/IzpisGradiva.php?id=109028; https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/Dokument.php?id=120337&dn=; https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/Dokument.php?id=120622&dn=; https://repozitorij.uni-lj.si/Dokument.php?id=120339&dn=; https://plus.si.cobiss.net/opac7/bib/10522627?lang=sl

Prispevek osvetljuje problematiko mešanih parov in družin na področju družinske dinamike, verskega življenja, vzgoje in partnerstva. Število mešanih zakonov v svetovnem merilu narašča, kar predstavlja za stroko (družinske terapevte, svetovalce, duhovnike) nov izziv, kako pomagati parom, ki iščejo pomoč. O položaju družine že leta 2014 spregovori sinodalno poročilo, ki ga je papež Frančišek vključil v Cerkveni dokument 152, Radost ljubezni: »V zvestobi Kristusovemu nauku motrimo položaj današnjih družin v vsej njegovi kompleksnosti, njegove svetle in temne plati. [.] Današnje antropološko-kulturne spremembe vplivajo na vse vidike življenja in zahtevajo analitičen in vsestranski pristop.« (19) Najpogostejše težave mešanih parov in družin so: sprejemanje drugačnosti, vpliv primarne družine, verska vzgoja ter vključitev v že obstoječe cerkvene skupnosti. Podrobneje bom predstavila partnersko in zakonsko problematiko. V nadaljevanju bom opozorila na problematiko mešanih parov pri nas in drugod po svetu. Izvorna družina in medosebni odnosi znotraj nje predstavljajo pomembno vlogo za vsak par ali družino. Mešani pari in družine se pogosto sami ne znajdejo, hkrati pa se srečujejo z občutkom nerazumljenosti, izdajstvom in občutkom krivde znotraj izvorne družine. Svetovne raziskave kažejo, da se mešani pari najpogosteje srečujejo s težavami ob rojstvu prvega otroka glede vere in vzgoje. Model relacijske družinske terapije je za mešane pare in družine s tovrstno problematiko še posebej primeren, ker na posameznika gleda v okviru družine in probleme rešuje celostno. This paper highlights the issues of mixed couples and families with regard to family dynamics, religious life, education and partnership. The number of mixed marriages is growing globally, which represents a new challenge for professionals (family therapists, counsellors, clergy, etc.) providing help to couples seeking help. Already in 2014, a synodal report that Pope Francis included in the Church document 152, Joy of Love, speaks about the situation of families: »In fidelity to Christ‘s teachings we ponder the situation of today‘s families, in all complexity, in bright and dark sides. (.) Today‘s anthropological-cultural changes affect all aspects of life and require analytical and comprehensive approach.«1 (19) The most common problems of mixed couples and families are acceptance of differences, the impact of the primary family, religious education, and integration into existing church communities. In this paper, partnership issues will be presented. Further on, we will draw attention to the problems of mixed couples in our country and around the world. The primary family and interpersonal relationships within it play an important role for any couple or family. Mixed couples and families are often faced with a sense of misunderstanding, rejection and guilt. Various studies show that mixed couples frequently face problems at the birth of their first child regarding religion and education. The relational model of family therapy for mixed couples and families with problems of this kind is particularly suitable because an individual is treated as a part of the family.